Over 40 mama — Adventures in poop, patience, and first-time parenthood

Hold onto your hat…
December 27, 2008, 6:36 pm
Filed under: parenthood, Uncategorized

So, as I mentioned, the bug has learned to scooch. Which means she’s getting into everything that’s between 0 and 12 inches off the floor.   The magazine rack, C’s immense pen box, and the cat box are all potential targets.  Fortunately the cat box is a little off her beaten path as of now.  As soon as she’s crawling instead of scooching, we’ll be worrying about the cat box.

We spent Xmas at C’s brother’s house.  We were all in the living room, with an enormous fireplace where they burnt all the wrapping paper.  The bug was just rapt watching it all: Her cousins, who bounced between the tree and the rest of us, playing “Santa” — the ribbons and paper and crinkly sounds and the TOYS and OMG OMG OMG the PACKAGING for said toys which came in all manner of plastics and paper and cardboard and all kinds of fun textures.  And of course the fireballs that erupted when someone threw in some paper.  Those were cool. 

Thankfully, it wasn’t as orgiastic as it’s been in years’ past.  I made most of my presents this year, since I wanted to save some $$.  So early on I bought some cool yarn and knitted a bunch of hats and scarves for folks.  Nobody totally vomited or said “what’s this supposed to be?” so I guess they were relatively successful. Maybe next year I’ll have a little more skill besides the knit stitch and basic hats, and can venture into more interesting patterns. 

We went to the pediatrician on Dec 23rd, something I really don’t recommend.  The bug was the last patient that day – we waited in the waiting room for 50 min before Dr P saw her.  And by the time Dr P came in to see us, she was clearly exhausted from a long day, and ready to run screaming out of there.

I asked about food and sleep: Turns out, the bug is now to the point where we no longer have to worry about allergies, so she can eat pretty much whatever she wants I want her to eat.  So she’s now eating tofu, carrots from our garden, and lentils.  C’s sis-in-law gave her a graham cracker which I wasn’t totally stoked about, but I’ve learned to pick my battles. 

Dr P also suggested we do a little “cry it out” to help the bug to sleep through the night.  We’ve actually already implemented this during the 3 and 5 AM wake ups and it seems to be working. She doesn’t cry for very long –she may not even be awake.  She seems to know on some level she’s supposed to be sleeping, and can soothe herself.  Daytimes are a little harder.  We’ll get there.  One thing I realized is that I prefer to implement change in interations, where Dr P tends to prescribe things in more black and white terms.  Definitely something to keep an eye out on.  Esp as the bean gets into crawling, I want a ped who can view an issue from multiple sides, and explain the various facets of each.  OMM!


Last minute Xmas shopping
December 23, 2008, 9:15 am
Filed under: recommendations

This year, with the economic downturn and all, it’s actually turning into a blessing to be so disorganized.  I am finding retailers are falling all over themselves to offer discounts, free shipping, and other incentives at the last-minute.

In years’ past, I have spent hundreds of dollars by this point, most of it well in advance, on sale, etc.  But this year, with no income and a baby, the thought of going out shopping, well, something that never entered my mind. So here I am, with NO shopping done WHATSOEVER, combing the interwebs, scraping for deals.

1800flowers has a good one – promo code M99 will get you free shipping.  Many of their plants are already discounted.  Etsy has some good stuff, too. Any other tips? Please post ’em for the broke and overwhelmed.

Happy 8 mo birthday, Lovebug!
December 20, 2008, 2:51 pm
Filed under: letters

Dearest bug –

Man I can barely believe it’s only been 8 months, but here we are.  I can’t really remember what it was like before you came along, but I am fairly sure it was awesome…just not as awesome as it is now.

You are soo funny.  You like to stick your fingers in papa’s nose like a bowling ball and torque his head different directions.  You make this gutteral rumbling sound when you’re concentrating that sounds like a two-stroke motorcycle engine, revving as you deepen your intensity.  Clearly you have the focus of a laser, and your will to learn is implacable. (Aiye, aiye, aiye.  I am already exhausted just THINKING about this.)

These days, you stick your tongue out when you’re happy.  You look like Albert Einstein in that famous photo.  Today you displayed your first case of stranger anxiety when M came over to pick up some of his mail.

You are the light of my life, little bug.  Happy birthday.

So much love,


It’s the end of the world as we know it
December 16, 2008, 7:47 am
Filed under: milestones

The bean can now scooch.  As of this morning, she’s figured out how to use her forearms and toes in concert to nudge herself around.  Oh and she is positively TRIUMPHANT as she motors around the room reaching for her plastic duck (or my ratty old shoe, or uh, the space heater *ahem*).

This is something that’s frustrated her for the better part of the last 2 weeks.  She KNOWS she’s got to be able to scooch…but when she tries, her body reflexively goes into the doggie paddle.  Today, she actually made it work.

Yes, the babyproofing must commence post haste.  But in the mean time, the bean is aglow.  As is her mama. 🙂

Freecycle is your friend
December 15, 2008, 10:30 pm
Filed under: recommendations

Okay, I cannot get enough of Freecycle.  Yes, there are ten-gazillion emails a day.  And yes, some of the stuff that’s given away is probably a public health hazard.  But if you know what you’re looking for, you can find some pretty amazing – and useful – crap.

It’s brilliant.  You join a yahoogroup for your area.  People post whatever they want to give away, along with their general location.  If you want the aforementioned crap, you write the poster directly, arrange a pickup time, et voila! You are the proud owner of a new article of crap.

I have gotten diapers, toys, a new cellphone charger. You can also find holiday decorations, food (!!!) and pets (??!) There are some serious freaks on Freecycle both as “offerers” and “takers.” But hell, if it’s preventing even half this stuff from hitting a landfill, then it’s a-okay in my book.